Growth is fortunately a significant reality of good living. When the state of our existence is healthy and the quality of life consistently improves growth is inevitable. The key then to personal growth is making certain that our outlook from within our personal habitat for life is personally nurturing. Now this does not mean that everything around us has to be positive and perfect—that’s never going to happen. Nor is love and respect from everyone we meet a necessary conduit for growth. The old adage is true. Life is not about what happens to us. Life is about how we respond to what happens to us. Our unique perspective determines whether our experiences add to or subtract from our lives. When we respond to life’s problematic circumstances as opportunities to become we will experience personal growth by leaps and abounds.

I have concluded that personal growth comes when we honor our commitments and goals, forgive ourselves and release the need for perfection.  Honoring our commitment means keeping the promise we made to ourselves on the good days and the bad days—during favorable and unfavorable conditions. Quitting is not an option. Commitment is standing firm on our own convictions. We set ourselves up for failure when we compare the commitments of others to our own. Even when personal goals are the same the path one person takes to get there could be totally different from someone else’s route. The process of reaching our personal goals can only be accomplished by climbing from our own foundation of commitment.

Secondly, making mistakes is part of the process of living. Therefore, forgiveness of self is necessary for growth. Unforgiveness sucks the life from our souls and stagnates our growth.  Even healthy balanced lives do not have error free zones. The most valuable lessons are learned from falling down not winning.  Winning is usually the culmination of gleaning from many lessons learned. Got a whole lot of adversity going on? Good. The Creator says class is in session! The universe will respond to all of your intentions so act according to your desired outcome. Some venture to say there are no mistakes just lessons to learn. As long as we fall forward, (applying what we learned) we will grow and even win from time to time. In those moments our seeds of knowledge bloom into flowers of wisdom. I personally win, every time I learn a lesson from this wonderful journey called life. I’m always trying to learn something cause winning in my life is motivational fuel for the journey.

Finally, we must fully embrace our growth at each phase. Have you ever looked at old photos with embarrassment or regret? Why? What would have made that moment better? You knew what you knew, nothing more—nothing less! It has been said by many elders that when we know better we do better. Too often we look at past photos or reflect on moments in our history with clearer lenses of new knowledge. Of course, if you knew then what you know now things would be different. However that is not the case. We made the best choices or not at the time simply because that’s who we were. We had to be that person then to be who we are today. Don’t remember  your past or present development for that matter with regret. Change the story you tell yourself about what happened. Highlight the good and honor the valuable lessons you have learned. Only then is the time well spent and we are equipped and ready to move forward.

A farmer wholeheartedly accepts the labor of tilling the soil and preparing the earth. He or she is privileged to plant the seed and does not discount the joy of participating in beginning something new. Further the farmer commits to the process of caring for seed, the seedling, the finally full grown plant and harvesting the fruit. Each phase is crucial the process and just as important. The farmer wisely sets right expectations for each phase of growth and development.  So, embrace each phase of your growth with a grateful heart. Every growth phase is part of the unique human process of becoming. You were everything you needed to be then and everything you need to be now—that’s perfect!

In love and peace,

Dr. Free

My authentic thought:

Life is a journey. We delude ourselves if we hope to reach a final destination. There is always more to do and more to learn if we make ourselves availible. Let’s surrender to the process and enjoy the ride.

Authentic thoughts are thoughts that are genuine and sincerely expressed. Authentic thoughts reverberate with other authentic individuals so they have an irresistible urge to ponder and or respectfully respond from their own unique perspective.

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Author: Dr. Free

Dr. Free is a veteran educator. Her area of expertise is African-centered education consulting. She is a life learner who is passionate about truth, liberation, and justice. Dr. Free strives to be true to herself. She expresses herself in a way that enhances the lives of others and she enjoys giving others the space and encouragment to do the same.

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