Our eyes behold countless scenes and images within our lifetime and it is up to us to determine for ourselves what we think about what we see. Sometimes we will call what we see beautiful and other times we won’t. We do not exist in this world alone. As we journey our own path we will more than likely meet a wide variety of people from differing walks of life. Their experiences helped to develop and shape their perceptions, ideologies and expectations from the people and the world at large. We have a definite right to whatever opinion we form about these people—if that’s how we choose to spend our time. However, they owe us no explanations for who they are and how they exist in the world. Maya Angelou said we will probably forget what people said but we won’t forget how they made us feel.   Maybe the people that made us feel loved and appreciated are people you and I would also call beautiful.

Have you ever heard a song whose lyrics moved you toward a defining moment in your life? You may call the song beautiful while no one else even notices. Why did the song elicit such a different response? The old adage is true! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Cultural conditioning has influenced our personal ideas of beauty. Within certain cultural constructs some appearances and ways of being are rejected.  The ridiculous one aspect of cultural conditioning is the it inclines us to be like others rather than embracing and celebrating our unique individuality. Behaving in this manner causes us to ignore and dismiss the beauty we encounter in the world and often the beauty we should behold when we look in the mirror.

Trying to look like someone or become just like someone else is a waste of time. No one else can be YOU like you can. The color of your skin, the texture of your hair, size of your feet, shape of your nose and lips all makes you uniquely you. Do you call what you see when you look in the mirror beautiful? You should. No one else’s opinion should be more important to us than our own. You are an original priceless masterpiece! Loving yourself means truly accepting yourself for the beautiful person you were created to be.

My authentic thought:

We are beautiful Black women with a wonderful culture to honor and fully embrace. It is unnecessary to align ourselves with what society deems beautiful. Actually, society is in denial about Black beauty. It’s more than interesting that others pick and choose to emulate certain aspects of Black beauty without acknowledging the origin.

Authentic thoughts are thoughts that are genuine and sincerely expressed. Authentic thoughts reverberate with other authentic individuals so they have an irresistible urge to ponder and or respectfully respond from their own unique perspective.

Share your authentic thoughts. Post a comment.

Author: Dr. Free

Dr. Free is a veteran educator. Her area of expertise is African-centered education consulting. She is a life learner who is passionate about truth, liberation, and justice. Dr. Free strives to be true to herself. She expresses herself in a way that enhances the lives of others and she enjoys giving others the space and encouragment to do the same.

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