Self-Love

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My Authentic truth:

A person who truly loves himself or herself and has genuine knowledge of self is willing to suffer and even die to protect the freedom to express that awareness. 

When we are not afraid to stand in our own truth we have the courage to endure.

Dr. Free

 

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Good Vibrations

 

drained-4There times when we keep company with certain people and we do not feel energized when they leave our presence. Instead we feel our energy has decreased a great bit! At times in their presence we may feel tired, weary or a heaviness and we cannot explain why. It was not because we exerted so much energy having fun, neither is it because we spent the time jogging or doing rigorous exercise.  Most importantly, the people we have been spending time with are not bad people and can be very well intended. However, something in your knower– your intuition, tells you something just isn’t right.

My Authentic Truth:

Most recently I have come to finally learn a lesson along my journey about the reason why I felt this sudden energy depletion around certain people and maybe my experience will speak to you. I did not want to be unkind so I would tolerate people in an effort to get along. However, as it turns out my actions turned out being a disservice to us both.  I have finally accepted the fact that we have to seek to surround ourselves with people who have similar vibrations. I understand at times it can be difficult especially if we are running from loneliness nor understand ourselves yet as energetic beings. But, trust and believe if we resolve to simply be true to ourselves and be our authentic self we will eventually attract other people to us of a similar vibration without sacrificing our own best interests.

wavelengthsWhen we are not true to ourselves we attract people who cause us more harm than good. The resulting harm does not mean the person came into your space for the explicit purpose of doing you harm.  This means that your vibrations are at a contrast or out of alignment. Hey, being human it happens. We just need to respond accordingly when it does happen. Yes, we are energetic beings! When we are around incompatible energy it can be draining. On the other hand, when you are around people with compatible energies there is no strain to communicate. Its often a celebrated experience.  There is a feeling of harmony , comfort and ease. Further, you are both interested in a similar dimension of truth.  For example, if they are surface level people so are you. But if you’re into deeper truths so are they. People in your inner circle do not have to have all the same interest as you do but there is a mutual respect even when your interest are different from theirs. They are even interested in hearing your perspective on certain issues. In fact, when you part company you feel better for having spent time with them.

When you feel depleted it could be because you are vibrating at a higher level than the company you were keeping and in order to connect you have to lower your vibration. Lowering your personal vibration causes you to become part of their vibration. You would in a sense repel each other–continuing on your paths unless you became lower in vibration and gave them some of your energy. Hence, the reason for the drained and tired feelings you experience. It is better to do what you can to keep  constant at a high vibration. High vibrations come from thinking positive thoughts, connecting with others at high vibrations, eating live foods, (dead food zaps your energy), listening to music you enjoy, being solution oriented and embracing the beauty in the moment.

You want resonance in your relationships with those in your inner circle.  When there is no resonance someone may be irritated on either side whether they are or are not being forthright about it. You may be draining them as much you think they are draining you—wanting them to be something they are not and visa versa.

We exist is a world filled with people from all walks of life who are experiencing their journey just like you and me. So, it is important to protectively guard your energy by avoiding people who are know-it-all all’s, complainers, emotional windbag, pretentious talkers, gossips, braggart and control freaks.drained

It is sometimes difficult to avoid these people because you work with them or live with them. In this instance, use your personal filter for their words and actions and confidently speak to situations that invite you to compromise your position so you can maintain your high vibration.  Passive behavior is no good for your vibration. Be true to yourself. When people cannot respect your for who you are that’s one sign of vibrational incompatibility. Special thanks to the friend in my heart Ralph Smart who inspired this truth to me and through me.

In peace and love,

Dr. Free

 Authentic thoughts are thoughts that are genuine and sincerely expressed. Authentic thoughts reverberate with other authentic individuals so they have an irresistible urge to ponder and or respectfully respond from their own unique perspective.

 

 

Personal Suffering

 

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Reality is the state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined

It has been said that our suffering comes from the attachment we have to ideals and the complex attitudes we create about the state of things. According to our own highest ideals, we are never quite what we should be –our best selves. Living each day feeling like we are never quite measuring up can be self -defeating and lead to personal suffering. Whether it is our family, our work, where we live, or life general –it seems things are never quite up to par with our ideals. This causes us to become very critical of ourselves, everyone and everything around us. Do some personal inventory. Where did your ideals come from? Were they imposed upon you through religious affliation, societal influences, or did they come from care givers who raised you? How much of what you call ideal for your life was brithed from your own hearts desire? Further, did you embrace what you consider important because you selected it and designed it to fit your unique sense of being?

For example, with religion, “ideals” were put in place and deemed important  by “certain people” during their own personal journey. Some one else  agreed with them and embraced their ideals because during that season of their life it worked for then too. The result is that these people try daily to hit the mark they set. During their striving consequently they end up evaluating and judging themselves and others. What works for one doesn’t necessarily work for everyone else.

How can we keep from rendering daily verdicts on others? Is it neccessry to be judge and jury sometimes? Nevertheless, how can one get from under the yoke of bondage of your personal ideals? I try to begin by asking questions rather than making statements.  Questions I ask are questions like, “why is it like this?”  “why are things this way?” “what do you think?”The questions are good starting points. It is good to ponder over everything of interest to me. Question everything you’d like! Wonder to yourself things like, why do monks shave their heads?  Why does he pray five times a day? Why do many different kinds of people get tattoos? Why are those standards important in that culture? Why do these children in this region behave so differently than the children in that region of the world? Contemplate these things, do not form an opinion about what is good, bad, useful or useless. Keep phrases like “they should” “that’s wrong” or “that’s a sin” far from your mouth. Instead allow your mind to be open and consider what you observe with intentional freedom. Sift through your thoughts until all you see and understand is the reality. Reality is the state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined

My authentic truth:

I am very inquisitive. Rather than making assumptions then assuming my assumptions are right–I ask questions. Questions either asked directly or as I ponder to myself. I always find it interesting though that my questioning to others is regarded as a weakness rather than a strength. The self-righteous and staunchly religious are eager to respond to my questions based on their “ideal standards” clouding the reality.

In my experience I have found people are quick to judge and evaluate the actions of others based solely on their ideal–never knowing the back story or actual reality. Yes I know in part it’s just the way humans naturally behave.On the other hand, its time for many of us to pump the breaks and take a pause for the cause of enlightenment. For me, asking questions is not necessarily to gain information but insight in an effort to abstain from thinking from a delusional mindset. Only then can I remain free from suffering from judgement, self-inflicted disappoint, a false sense of superiority and a unnessary messiah complex. All of the aforementioned leads to personal suffering. Self reflection brings me satisfying enlightenment. Go ahead and free yourself.

Authentic thoughts are thoughts that are genuine and sincerely expressed. Authentic thoughts reverberate with other authentic individuals so they have an irresistible urge to ponder and or respectfully respond from their own unique perspective.

Express your authentic thoughts. Post a comment. I welcome your valued perspective. Thank you in advance.

In love and peace,

Dr. Free.

 

A Picture of Accomplishment 2

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When African-American people truly have a reached true accomplishment as a community:

  • We will have a presence in the marketplace—the realm of business, trade and economics where we are creating opportunities for other people who look like us. Most of not many of these business will be in our own communities.
  • We will hold positions of influence in local government, on school boards and in banking. We will have banks owned and run by African-Americans in our communities.
  • We will make connections with leaders as leaders so that we can employ, provide services, train and hire skilled workers.
  • We will write and publish our own narratives via television broadcasts, books, newspapers, and magazines. We will also own and manage these companies.
  • We will acknowledge each other with respect and love despite differences
  • We will look out for each other being our brother’s and sister’s keeper—policing our communities and looking out for the children as if they were our own.
  • We will create art forms and artistic expressions that edify and admonish our people toward progress.
  • We will provide education for our own children with a complete curriculum that teaches African rituals and cultural competence, spirituality, community activism, African history before the diaspora and African-American history, rites of passage, counter-racism, political science, health care and nutrition for people of color (there is a difference), problems solving, and money management. These schools will also be equipped to address our social emotional needs. Students will learn to know themselves and how to further their own best interest.
  • We will unite in an unwavering commitment to each other

This is what the picture for accomplishment truly looks like for African-Americans in American society. . The question is not what are they doing? The question is what am I doing to accept personal responsibility to create this picture for accomplishment? This list has no end. There is room for your innovative ideas.

How will you contribute toward the betterment of our people for generations to come? Will future generations want to honor you with thanksgiving for work you did with them in mind? Even under the tremendous oppression and affliction of our forefathers they tenaciously accomplished much. With all of the resources, opportunities, and freedoms available to us now–what will we do?

Authentic thoughts are thoughts that are genuine and sincerely expressed. Authentic thoughts reverberate with other authentic individuals so they have an irresistible urge to ponder and or respectfully respond from their own unique perspective.

Express your authentic thoughts. Post a comment. I welcome your valued perspective. Thank you in advance.

 

In love and peace,

Dr. Free.

A Picture of Accomplishment Part 1

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Much time is spent complaining about the present state of affairs for people of African-American people in North America and around the world. If there is a common problem that seems to plague a large number of Americans in general, African-Americans tend to experience the worse-case scenarios. There were Africans who came to what is now called North America many years before Columbus came to make his alleged claim. Ivan Van Sertima covers this topic well in his book The African Presence in Ancient America: They Came Before Columbus.

When the largest number of African-Americans came to North America, we came as slaves. However, Since that time, we have had to fight for every freedom we presently experience. The book The Half Has Never Been Told: Slavery and the Making of American Capitalism by Ed Baptist presents thorough coverage of this topic. We owe our ancestors a great deal of gratitude for the sacrifices they have relentlessly made. Yes, we are answers to their prayers. Because of them we are able exist in America in the manifested hope that only filled their hearts. When our ancestors marched for miles in the heat, smiled to hide the anger and tears, labored under the weight of brutality, and endured undeserved horrific physical, mental, and psychological abuse—the generations to come were on their minds. For that I am so, so, truly thankful. Someone else thought of me. They understood that we are all connected. The blood of our ancestors runs in our veins whether we acknowledge it or not. In part, this is why I am compelled to share now in this forum.

We have come a long way because of the profound sacrifices of other people just like you and me but we have so much further to go. Should we have the audacity to forget and dismiss their efforts as if they have no meaning for us today? For centuries people unwaveringly struggled so that we could attain greater than they did in America. We have not attained a certain level of success as African-Americans in this society simply because we are intelligent, attractive, or clever. None of our intellect would matter had our ancestors not fought tirelessly on our behalf. Therefore, our academic degrees, training and acquired skills do not simply belong to us as individuals. They belong to the African-American community. When we learn to further the best interests of our community we will personally experience the benefits today and the in our future. Martin Luther King stated, No one is free until we are all free.”

The Media has a habit of reporting what is negative since it seems to grab our attention. Without hesitation the negative reports are filled with flagrant propaganda that misleads and confuses the masses. With a polluted mentality it is then difficult to conceptualize accomplishment in our community. What does accomplishment truly look like for African-Americans in American society?

Authentic thoughts are thoughts that are genuine and sincerely expressed. Authentic thoughts reverberate with other authentic individuals so they have an irresistible urge to ponder and or respectfully respond from their own unique perspective.

Express your authentic thoughts. Post a comment. I welcome your valued perspective. Thank you in advance.

In love and peace,

Dr. Free.

 

Intellectual Immunization

 

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LOOKING INTO THE MIRROR, THE BLACK WOMAN ASKED, “MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL, WHO’S THE FINEST OF THEM ALL?” THE MIRROR SAYS, “SNOW WHITE, YOU BLACK BITCH, AND DON’T YOU FORGET IT!!!” 1987-1988. Photograph. Aint Jokin’, Los Angeles. Carrie Mae Weems. By Carrie Mae Weems. Web. 17 May 2013.

Simply put and briefly stated, the present state of affairs on every level for the African-Americans in this country is due to miseducation. Carter G. Woodson says it best in his relevant book The Mis-education of the Negro. In general, African American people are profoundly ignorant about their historical greatness and the significance of their culture. We need a Sankofa Revival.  Sankofa is a word of the Twi language that translates as “Go back and get it”. There is much for us to reclaim. Too many of us think there was nothing worthwhile before slavery and the need to look back is unnecessary. In his book Know Thyself, Nai’m Akbar writes:

“The proper education of the African American should offer the transmission of acquired immunities. We should study detailed stories of the Ashanti people of Ghana who resisted their colonization and tricked the British when they sought to steal their Royal Ornaments and symbols of power. The stories of many slaves who resisted their enslavement must be told. The victor of Cinque on the Amistad and the struggles of Nat Turner and Denmark Vessey must be celebrated as a means of transmitting our immunity to oppression…..The challenges brought by Marcus Garvey, Elijah Muhammad, Malcolm X, Paul Robeson and the many others who defiantly resisted the perpetuation of European American control over African-American life should be catechism of each generation of our young people.”

If we do not know or care to know and understand our history as African-Americans the intent of the system of white supremacy has succeeded in our lives. Our lack of unity, self-hate, cultural shame, rejection of African spiritualty and thought are all symptoms of disease that only an intellectual immunization can cure.

When we are truly well mind, body, and soul we will unite as a people—edifying each other and strengthening our communities while educating our own about the greatness of ourselves. This means having an allegiance and unwavering commitment to each other. We will exude self-love embracing every aspect of our bodies in their natural state. Our spiritual disposition will be secure thus eliminating the need for organized religion. African-American men and women will fearless lead, protect, and support one another. Finally, our life style would willingly embody the honorable habits and practices of our ancestors who lived in a state of wellness and productivity that few have ever known. Yes, I know it’s the 21st century and not the 17th century. However, the imperative necessity to reconnect with the timeless wealth in our African culture will help us to be the best version of ourselves—both individually and collectively for today and tomorrow.

Authentic thoughts are thoughts that are genuine and sincerely expressed. Authentic thoughts reverberate with other authentic individuals so they have an irresistible urge to ponder and or respectfully respond from their own unique perspective.

Express your authentic thoughts. Post a comment. I welcome your valued perspective.

Thank you in advance.

In love and peace,

Dr. Free.

 

 

Haters

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Today the colloquial word “hater” has become very popular. The word is generally used to describe a person who takes issue with another person’s success or good fortune.  Many reasons could be suggested for the “haters” negative attitude. Maybe haters object because from their perspective the recipient of good is undeserving, or unworthy of reward. There are others who think with a scarcity mind-set   concluding if one person wins the other person automatically has to lose. They suppose there must not be “enough” for everybody therefore—one’s winning is at their expense. However, “haters” have not yet realized they don’t have to put out the bright light of others in order for their own lights to brightly shine.

The reason haters struggle with celebrating anyone else, criticize, disapprove, respond with insults and offer spontaneous put downs has nothing to do with the accomplishments of others. The haters attitude is a direct reflection of their own personal insecurities and low-level of self-worth. Their jealous actions broadcast true personal feelings they hold at present about themselves.

Haters wish they had the boldness to do what others have done. They have yet to discover the freedom, flare, and finesse they too possess. They’d rather complain than compliment. It’s difficult to give to others what one doesn’t know how to give to themselves. Their courage and confidence is suppressed by fear. For them it’s easier to be critical than it is to try. Fear of failure and subjecting themselves to the same ridicule they’ve dished out –keeps them on the side lines of life. Those who are hated by the hater create the reality for their lives haters dare to even dream about. The best retaliation for the hated is an authentically successful life fully lived.

 

My authentic thought: Being your personal best should be a priority. No one ever has to apologize for that or feel bothered by nay sayers who have a problem with a person being their best, achieving at their best, or receiving the best.

In peace and love,

Dr. Free

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