“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
As a youth, in our desire to please our parents and other figures of authority, we easily and innocently began to lose trust in ourselves. Our respect for their position, power, and influence made both their words and actions carry a lot of weight with us.
Since this authority was somehow responsible for protecting us, providing for us, or showing us a “proven” way of being in the world it was easy for us to abandon our own sense of self-trust in search of approval as we mimic acceptable behaviors, attitudes, and perspectives. The result is that we learned to externalize our trust. At some point, we realize it is advantageous to restore our trust within ourselves. But how does one do this? And how do we know the mission is being accomplished? What does it look like when an individual trust themselves? Do you trust yourself? How do you know if you trust yourself?
When we trust ourselves fully, there are no rambling questions, second thoughts, or regrets. There is a secure knowing to do what needs to be done without hesitation. We make the best decision we can with the insight and information we have at that time and know that’s enough.
To begin, it’s convenient to lean on others instead of trusting ourselves, and it’s easy to blame others when our choices don’t have the outcome we hoped for. However, the power to choose always belongs to the individual unless he or she chooses to give it away—allowing others to choose for them. Even when it appears that we have resigned not to choose at all we are still making a choice. Why do we have moments of hesitation, vacillation, feel stuck or overthink in life. Perhaps, we have misplaced trust. Misplaced trust is the result of looking outside of ourselves for validation that we are doing the right thing. Misplaced trust needs a cosigner and seeks a majority vote for personal decisions.
Secondly, logic or reasoning is the common way in this 3rd dimension. Programming says only trust what we can see and what can be explained or justified through the five senses. Yes, we are human beings. The human part of us uses what we can hear, touch, taste, smell, and feel to exist in this world. However, the “being” part of us requires something different to be at peace. The being or spiritual part of us speaks to us and through us as intuition, discernment, clairaudience, clairvoyance, clairsentience, telepathy, etc. The aforementioned help us to trust ourselves more than the circumstances and systems outside of us. Do we know the voice of our inner being and the way it speaks to us? Our priority should be to respond to the voice of our inner being above all else. A developed relationship with ourselves will empower us to do so.
Thirdly, fear of failure affects our ability to trust ourselves. Too often we are afraid of making the wrong choice! Many of us have not fully come to understand that there are no wrong choices. Every choice adds to our growth and expansion. We can always choose again and create a different reality. Choices made in trust never equal stagnation but always move us forward. Further, every choice has a benefit. Each choice offers an experience but we are not the experience. Experiences do not define us. Along my journey, I have learned that we are always exactly where we should be. If we ought to be somewhere else, we would have chosen to be there. Metaphorically speaking our choices will provide what feels like a shortcut or scenic route. Either route leads to the same destination. Our tasks and responsibilities are in sync with our evolution. In other words, if we find ourselves on the shortcut that’s what we’re ready for and if we find ourselves on the scenic route then there are some essential jewels there for us that are yet to be discovered. Some choices seem more glorious but we can trust we are exactly where we need to be.
Finally, in order for trust to be “trust”, there must be unknown variables. Otherwise, trust is not necessary. If we wrestle with making attempts to prepare a Plan B, are we reverting to the restrictions of logic or creating a safety net in case we miss it? When we wrestle with trying to control unknown variables are we not spinning our wheels? The bottom line is what difference do the unknown variables make when our inner being is consistently giving us signs and signals about the next move we need to make in our lives. The question is are we paying close attention? Are we taking note of what our inner being is saying? Are we being still enough to sit with ourselves to listen? Finally, are we honoring or denying our own truth?
In conclusion, can we trust ourselves more than the unseen external factors which we seem to contend with? Moreover, are we fighting with an unknown factor or are we actually fighting with ourselves? When we are aligned with our divinity, we are always making a choice that is for our highest good. Trusting yourself means doing so regardless of how your choices may contradict the opinions and acceptable way of behaving- Is it ever a good thing to trust someone or something else more than we trust ourselves?
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Peace, love, and light to you,
Deana “Dr. Free” Gordon